Riding Motorcycles

About a month ago, I was hit by a car while riding my motorcycle.
The car side-swiped me and took off. My bike bounced off the car,
shot out from under me, and I rolled under the car. Amazingly
enough, I stood up, picked up my bike, and got to the side of the
street without any problems. All I had was a small bit of road
rash on my elbow. I was lucky!

However, I’m not writing this to acquire oohs and ahhs, but to
discuss one important lesson I learned from this incident that
applies very well to life in general. The basic lesson I learned
here was that, now that I am confident in hitting the ground and
surviving, I have actually become a much better rider. Of course,
they do say that there are only two types of motorcycle riders
— those who have gone down, and those who have not.

— Change and Balance —

At the beginning of many of my coaching sessions, my clients ask
me why things fall apart, out of the blue, once they get moving
along in their lives. Believe it or not, there is an answer. It
has to do with balance, lessons, and traversing new and unknown
paths. In all cases, the only time we encounter challenges is
when we decide to move forward toward a new goal. In our
movement, we throw our environment into an imbalance causing a
chain reaction of events around us to push balance back into the
situation.

We usually see this surge for balance as a problem, challenge, or
issue and then back off to fall back into the safety of the
original situation. But, realize, that such surges are merely in
response to your own desire to change. When you initiate change,
your environment creates an equal and opposite force against
change. It is called “nature”.

— Crash and Burn —

Once we are able to overcome the initial inertia of change and
move forward, we inevitably encounter challenges that will cause
us to stumble and fall. Such challenges are not in place to cause
us to quit, but are there to wake us up and make us realize that
we can endure much more than we thought we could and still
continue along our path. Falling enables us to see our own
character and abilities to prepare us for the future challenges.
This is a stair-step approach to bettering ourselves and becoming
stronger in our resolve.

However, the important part of falling is that you learn how far
you have to go to hit the ground. In many cases, we fear falling
because it’s going to hurt. Indeed, wiping out at 50mph is
painful, but survivable. But, once you know what it feels like
and can maintain your wits when you hit the ground, getting up
and doing it again is easy because you know that you will
survive. In the end, you are better able to pursue the ultimate
goal because you are no longer afraid of falling, or failing.

— What’s next? —

I once heard the saying, “if you fall on your face, at least you
were moving forward.” It’s an interesting statement because, the
only way to fall forward is if you have forward momentum when you
fell. It’s an excellent view to accept when moving toward a goal
as it can help make the potential falls easier to bear. This,
because, inevitably, we will fall. But, so many times we get
caught up in the negative aspects of failure, or falling.
Instead, view it as a wake-up call or a way to desensitize
yourself so that you can focus on your goal. In this way, future
falls won’t be so dramatic and our fear of falling won’t get in
the way of achieving our desires.

About The Author

Edward B. Toupin is an author, life-strategy coach, counselor,
and technical writer living in Las Vegas, NV. Among other things,
he authors books, articles, and screenplays on topics ranging
from career success through life organization and fulfillment.
For more information, e-mail Edward at etoupin@toupin.com or
visit his sites at http://www.toupin.com